Trauma can Impact our Relationships
Trauma can impact our ability to be intimate and authentic in relationships. Humans need to feel safe in order to explore the realm of intimacy. Trauma can be defined as the unresolved impact from past event(s) or ongoing circumstances that remains in our physical bodies and or psyches. Most of our psychological wounds happen within relationship and therefore need to heal within relationship. While past events may always have some influence on us, they do not need to define who we are or how we show up in relationship.
As Peter Levine, founder of the Somatic Experiencing therapy, states, 'trauma is not the event itself but the impact of that event within a person'. Examples of trauma events range from violation of our physical boundaries or psychological autonomy, to disconnection from nature, to our parents / caregivers just not really 'seeing us' for our true selves. Trauma that remains unhealed within us can show up in communication, mental or emotional patterns and our physical lives. Creating intentional, compassionate awareness of these patterns can be a major healing step in and of itself.
The healing process can happen ethically when it is through a multi-cultural & intersectional perspective. Traumas often occur through systemic oppressions and these imbalanced power structures are taken into account in my practice so that holistic healing is possible. Not only does this apply to social and or economic circumstances, but also to our realtionship with the non-human world. Our birthright is to have a connection with our environment and our nervous systems are often able to regulate better when this connection is readily available. When we take a step back in our own lives to gently observe how we show up in relationship, we can start to sense the interconnectedness of all our relations, and from that place, cultivate a deep sense of presence.
Common Areas of Focus
- anxiety, depression, dissociation, affairs, victim or perpetrator of sexual, psychological or emotional abuse, CSAS, pain during sex, body dysphoria, spinal injury, religious, therapy or medical trauma, grief stagnation, survivor of foster care system, disturbance from unsupported psychedelic experiences
- boundary and body renegotiation, ability to put emotions into words, emotional attachment awareness, healthy boundaries, repairing relational ruptures, more joy, integration support for psychedelics and herbal medicines, fulfilling relationships, return of curiosity
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